Emily Lorin

Emily Lorin

is creating critical dialogue around gender, race + embodied spirituality

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patrons
Hi, I'm Emily. I'm a queer, white femme and I use the pronouns she/they. I am an educator, coach and writer working at the intersection of healing shame/trauma, spiritual embodiment, powerful truth-telling and deconstructing whiteness.

I used to be called "Little Miss Goody Two Shoes" in high school. I would smile and protest vehemently while knowing they were right; my ability to be "good," "right," and as "perfect" as humanly possible were the baseline for measuring my worth. This driven, unrealistic, capitalistic, white way of living drove me into a marriage to an abusive husband in my early twenties. It led me to dissociate from my body so that I could survive that marriage because listening to my gut would have caused a change in action long before I walked down that aisle. When my marriage imploded shortly after it began I discovered: divorce was the capital "sin" I thought would end my life, but here I was. I thought I could "good enough" my way into the idea of a perfect life and yet I was trying to hide under the sofa to escape the pain of life and an entire ideology destroyed. 

I tell you this as a tiny illustration of the person I once was: disconnected, empty, productivity-driven, filled with hate for my body, overwhelmed by comparison to others, entitled, self-righteousness, filled with fear and shame. AND I was kind, loving and fun to be around. Racial and gender discussions inherently involve shame, guilt and messiness. This is not to be avoided, but embraced and held gently with brutal honesty. Through countless books by folks of color, hours of therapy, hours in circles with The People's Institute for Survival and Beyond and Beyond Diversity 101, I have found a path to liberation. I am still on it and understand this is a lifelong journey. I hope you will join me. 

For reference, I live in the colonized territory known as the U.S. -- a nation currently and historically ruled by heteronormative, patriarchal, capitalist, imperialist, sexist, white supremacy. (We will break down these terms more.) I write to heal the trauma that is trying to be a whole human in a world built around labels that constrict, restrict and often abuse. Life has taught me we are all born magnificent, spiritual beings. We are born whole and wonderful. Our spirits dwell in bodies that are intrinsically perfect and connected to the earth. The way our society currently does "living" is often traumatic at worst and dissociating at minimum.

Most of our constructs (race, gender binary, beauty "norms," etc.) are created, man-made and lacking in the creativity needed to capture the human experience. Looking at history clearly, we can understand that "whiteness" as a race construct is very much made up, but the impacts of power and privilege that come with "being white" are very real. The same can be said for the power and privileges given to any individual that conforms (naturally or by choice) to these constructs as defined by society.

I help folks own and reckon with this truth for spiritual healing and embodied liberation.

Whiteness is entitlement with power. It is violent. It is alive. It is the lack of empathy, disconnection.  It is built on anti-blackness. It is hidden in plain sight. Whiteness requires a sacrifice of traditions, spirit, consciousness, embodiment, creativity and complexities. Indigenous, Black, LGBTQIA and most Folks of color know this as they experience the violence and oppression daily. White folks (and many white-passing, and even some BIPOC) dismiss or deny this...until forced to. Whiteness impacts us all.

Whiteness is not just race. It makes up the constructs the nation claims to celebrate -- religious "norms," language, music, sexuality, gender expression, beauty ideals, capitalistic markets, etc. This work is for all of us. Us: as in for the lives of black and brown folks who this white system will not let live and for the souls of white folks who cannot be well after centuries of perpetuating such violence.

You may not be surprised after learning my highschool nickname that in my lifetime I have been the typical "colorblind," appropriating, violent, white woman we all know so well. I spent most of a quarter of a century not knowing that I was white or having any awareness of the violent systems I benefit from and perpetuated mindlessly -- like so many others, as our systems were set up for this specific purpose. Over the past few years, I have learned, grieved, expanded. I went through a period of hating whiteness which translated into being perpetually angry at white people (which happened to make up all of my family, many of my friends and coworkers). I wanted to cancel us all, but discovered that to be an unproductive and unhelpful use of my time and energy. Instead, I'm using my art -- words + education + creation -- to do the work my ancestors couldn't, wouldn't, didn't do. I hope you'll join me on this path of liberation and healing.
Tiers
Seeds
$5 or more per month

I believe in a society beyond capitalism, where everyone contributes as they are able to; a society rooted in abundance not scarcity. For this reason,  I do not do tiered benefits.  I ask that you give what you are able and called to. I value your contribution at every stage.


Every patron will receive the following:

  • Subscription to a monthly newsletter ranging in topics from trauma, race, gender, shame, cultural appropriation, grief, embodiment, mindfulness and a range of other topics that our community finds important, interesting and/or funny.
  • The ability to submit topic suggestions and/or questions you'd like to understand more fully to be covered by the newsletter.
  • A monthly book review -- there are so many out there! It's helpful to have a place to begin.
  • A monthly embodiment exercise (this could be a mindfulness exercise you can use throughout the day for grounding, a dance, a breathing exercise, etc.)
  • Lastly, any and all behind the scenes and first looks at upcoming projects and workshops!


I hope to use this space as a home for our community to discuss, educate, unpack, unlearn, expand, unbecome, heal and grow on a molecular level.  

Roots
$10 or more per month

I believe in a society beyond capitalism, where everyone contributes as they are able to; a society rooted in abundance not scarcity. For this reason,  I do not do tiered benefits.  I ask that you give what you are able and called to. I value your contribution at every stage.


Every patron will receive the following:

  • Subscription to a monthly newsletter ranging in topics from trauma, race, gender, shame, cultural appropriation, grief, embodiment, mindfulness and a range of other topics that our community finds important, interesting and/or funny.
  • The ability to submit topic suggestions and/or questions you'd like to understand more fully to be covered by the newsletter.
  • A monthly book review -- there are so many out there! It's helpful to have a place to begin.
  • A monthly embodiment exercise (this could be a mindfulness exercise you can use throughout the day for grounding, a dance, a breathing exercise, etc.)
  • Lastly, any and all behind the scenes and first looks at upcoming projects and workshops!


I hope to use this space as a home for our community to discuss, educate, unpack, unlearn, expand, unbecome, heal and grow on a molecular level.  

Stems
$20 or more per month

I believe in a society beyond capitalism, where everyone contributes as they are able to; a society rooted in abundance not scarcity. For this reason,  I do not do tiered benefits.  I ask that you give what you are able and called to. I value your contribution at every stage.


Every patron will receive the following:


  • Subscription to a monthly newsletter ranging in topics from trauma, race, gender, shame, cultural appropriation, grief, embodiment, mindfulness and a range of other topics that our community finds important, interesting and/or funny.
  • The ability to submit topic suggestions and/or questions you'd like to understand more fully to be covered by the newsletter.
  • A monthly book review -- there are so many out there! It's helpful to have a place to begin.
  • A monthly embodiment exercise (this could be a mindfulness exercise you can use throughout the day for grounding, a dance, a breathing exercise, etc.)
  • Lastly, any and all behind the scenes and first looks at upcoming projects and workshops!


I hope to use this space as a home for our community to discuss, educate, unpack, unlearn, expand, unbecome, heal and grow on a molecular level. 

Buds
$50 or more per month

I believe in a society beyond capitalism, where everyone contributes as they are able to; a society rooted in abundance not scarcity. For this reason,  I do not do tiered benefits.  I ask that you give what you are able and called to. I value your contribution at every stage.


Every patron will receive the following:

  • Subscription to a monthly newsletter ranging in topics from trauma, race, gender, shame, cultural appropriation, grief, embodiment, mindfulness and a range of other topics that our community finds important, interesting and/or funny.
  • The ability to submit topic suggestions and/or questions you'd like to understand more fully to be covered by the newsletter.
  • A monthly book review -- there are so many out there! It's helpful to have a place to begin.
  • A monthly embodiment exercise (this could be a mindfulness exercise you can use throughout the day for grounding, a dance, a breathing exercise, etc.)
  • Lastly, any and all behind the scenes and first looks at upcoming projects and workshops!


I hope to use this space as a home for our community to discuss, educate, unpack, unlearn, expand, unbecome, heal and grow on a molecular level.  

Blooms
$100 or more per month

 I believe in a society beyond capitalism, where everyone contributes as they are able to; a society rooted in abundance not scarcity. For this reason,  I do not do tiered benefits.  I ask that you give what you are able and called to. I value your contribution at every stage.


Every patron will receive the following:

  • Subscription to a monthly newsletter ranging in topics from trauma, race, gender, shame, cultural appropriation, grief, embodiment, mindfulness and a range of other topics that our community finds important, interesting and/or funny.
  • The ability to submit topic suggestions and/or questions you'd like to understand more fully to be covered by the newsletter.
  • A monthly book review -- there are so many out there! It's helpful to have a place to begin.
  • A monthly embodiment exercise (this could be a mindfulness exercise you can use throughout the day for grounding, a dance, a breathing exercise, etc.)
  • Lastly, any and all behind the scenes and first looks at upcoming projects and workshops!


I hope to use this space as a home for our community to discuss, educate, unpack, unlearn, expand, unbecome, heal and grow on a molecular level.  

Hi, I'm Emily. I'm a queer, white femme and I use the pronouns she/they. I am an educator, coach and writer working at the intersection of healing shame/trauma, spiritual embodiment, powerful truth-telling and deconstructing whiteness.

I used to be called "Little Miss Goody Two Shoes" in high school. I would smile and protest vehemently while knowing they were right; my ability to be "good," "right," and as "perfect" as humanly possible were the baseline for measuring my worth. This driven, unrealistic, capitalistic, white way of living drove me into a marriage to an abusive husband in my early twenties. It led me to dissociate from my body so that I could survive that marriage because listening to my gut would have caused a change in action long before I walked down that aisle. When my marriage imploded shortly after it began I discovered: divorce was the capital "sin" I thought would end my life, but here I was. I thought I could "good enough" my way into the idea of a perfect life and yet I was trying to hide under the sofa to escape the pain of life and an entire ideology destroyed. 

I tell you this as a tiny illustration of the person I once was: disconnected, empty, productivity-driven, filled with hate for my body, overwhelmed by comparison to others, entitled, self-righteousness, filled with fear and shame. AND I was kind, loving and fun to be around. Racial and gender discussions inherently involve shame, guilt and messiness. This is not to be avoided, but embraced and held gently with brutal honesty. Through countless books by folks of color, hours of therapy, hours in circles with The People's Institute for Survival and Beyond and Beyond Diversity 101, I have found a path to liberation. I am still on it and understand this is a lifelong journey. I hope you will join me. 

For reference, I live in the colonized territory known as the U.S. -- a nation currently and historically ruled by heteronormative, patriarchal, capitalist, imperialist, sexist, white supremacy. (We will break down these terms more.) I write to heal the trauma that is trying to be a whole human in a world built around labels that constrict, restrict and often abuse. Life has taught me we are all born magnificent, spiritual beings. We are born whole and wonderful. Our spirits dwell in bodies that are intrinsically perfect and connected to the earth. The way our society currently does "living" is often traumatic at worst and dissociating at minimum.

Most of our constructs (race, gender binary, beauty "norms," etc.) are created, man-made and lacking in the creativity needed to capture the human experience. Looking at history clearly, we can understand that "whiteness" as a race construct is very much made up, but the impacts of power and privilege that come with "being white" are very real. The same can be said for the power and privileges given to any individual that conforms (naturally or by choice) to these constructs as defined by society.

I help folks own and reckon with this truth for spiritual healing and embodied liberation.

Whiteness is entitlement with power. It is violent. It is alive. It is the lack of empathy, disconnection.  It is built on anti-blackness. It is hidden in plain sight. Whiteness requires a sacrifice of traditions, spirit, consciousness, embodiment, creativity and complexities. Indigenous, Black, LGBTQIA and most Folks of color know this as they experience the violence and oppression daily. White folks (and many white-passing, and even some BIPOC) dismiss or deny this...until forced to. Whiteness impacts us all.

Whiteness is not just race. It makes up the constructs the nation claims to celebrate -- religious "norms," language, music, sexuality, gender expression, beauty ideals, capitalistic markets, etc. This work is for all of us. Us: as in for the lives of black and brown folks who this white system will not let live and for the souls of white folks who cannot be well after centuries of perpetuating such violence.

You may not be surprised after learning my highschool nickname that in my lifetime I have been the typical "colorblind," appropriating, violent, white woman we all know so well. I spent most of a quarter of a century not knowing that I was white or having any awareness of the violent systems I benefit from and perpetuated mindlessly -- like so many others, as our systems were set up for this specific purpose. Over the past few years, I have learned, grieved, expanded. I went through a period of hating whiteness which translated into being perpetually angry at white people (which happened to make up all of my family, many of my friends and coworkers). I wanted to cancel us all, but discovered that to be an unproductive and unhelpful use of my time and energy. Instead, I'm using my art -- words + education + creation -- to do the work my ancestors couldn't, wouldn't, didn't do. I hope you'll join me on this path of liberation and healing.

Recent posts by Emily Lorin

Tiers
Seeds
$5 or more per month

I believe in a society beyond capitalism, where everyone contributes as they are able to; a society rooted in abundance not scarcity. For this reason,  I do not do tiered benefits.  I ask that you give what you are able and called to. I value your contribution at every stage.


Every patron will receive the following:

  • Subscription to a monthly newsletter ranging in topics from trauma, race, gender, shame, cultural appropriation, grief, embodiment, mindfulness and a range of other topics that our community finds important, interesting and/or funny.
  • The ability to submit topic suggestions and/or questions you'd like to understand more fully to be covered by the newsletter.
  • A monthly book review -- there are so many out there! It's helpful to have a place to begin.
  • A monthly embodiment exercise (this could be a mindfulness exercise you can use throughout the day for grounding, a dance, a breathing exercise, etc.)
  • Lastly, any and all behind the scenes and first looks at upcoming projects and workshops!


I hope to use this space as a home for our community to discuss, educate, unpack, unlearn, expand, unbecome, heal and grow on a molecular level.  

Roots
$10 or more per month

I believe in a society beyond capitalism, where everyone contributes as they are able to; a society rooted in abundance not scarcity. For this reason,  I do not do tiered benefits.  I ask that you give what you are able and called to. I value your contribution at every stage.


Every patron will receive the following:

  • Subscription to a monthly newsletter ranging in topics from trauma, race, gender, shame, cultural appropriation, grief, embodiment, mindfulness and a range of other topics that our community finds important, interesting and/or funny.
  • The ability to submit topic suggestions and/or questions you'd like to understand more fully to be covered by the newsletter.
  • A monthly book review -- there are so many out there! It's helpful to have a place to begin.
  • A monthly embodiment exercise (this could be a mindfulness exercise you can use throughout the day for grounding, a dance, a breathing exercise, etc.)
  • Lastly, any and all behind the scenes and first looks at upcoming projects and workshops!


I hope to use this space as a home for our community to discuss, educate, unpack, unlearn, expand, unbecome, heal and grow on a molecular level.  

Stems
$20 or more per month

I believe in a society beyond capitalism, where everyone contributes as they are able to; a society rooted in abundance not scarcity. For this reason,  I do not do tiered benefits.  I ask that you give what you are able and called to. I value your contribution at every stage.


Every patron will receive the following:


  • Subscription to a monthly newsletter ranging in topics from trauma, race, gender, shame, cultural appropriation, grief, embodiment, mindfulness and a range of other topics that our community finds important, interesting and/or funny.
  • The ability to submit topic suggestions and/or questions you'd like to understand more fully to be covered by the newsletter.
  • A monthly book review -- there are so many out there! It's helpful to have a place to begin.
  • A monthly embodiment exercise (this could be a mindfulness exercise you can use throughout the day for grounding, a dance, a breathing exercise, etc.)
  • Lastly, any and all behind the scenes and first looks at upcoming projects and workshops!


I hope to use this space as a home for our community to discuss, educate, unpack, unlearn, expand, unbecome, heal and grow on a molecular level. 

Buds
$50 or more per month

I believe in a society beyond capitalism, where everyone contributes as they are able to; a society rooted in abundance not scarcity. For this reason,  I do not do tiered benefits.  I ask that you give what you are able and called to. I value your contribution at every stage.


Every patron will receive the following:

  • Subscription to a monthly newsletter ranging in topics from trauma, race, gender, shame, cultural appropriation, grief, embodiment, mindfulness and a range of other topics that our community finds important, interesting and/or funny.
  • The ability to submit topic suggestions and/or questions you'd like to understand more fully to be covered by the newsletter.
  • A monthly book review -- there are so many out there! It's helpful to have a place to begin.
  • A monthly embodiment exercise (this could be a mindfulness exercise you can use throughout the day for grounding, a dance, a breathing exercise, etc.)
  • Lastly, any and all behind the scenes and first looks at upcoming projects and workshops!


I hope to use this space as a home for our community to discuss, educate, unpack, unlearn, expand, unbecome, heal and grow on a molecular level.  

Blooms
$100 or more per month

 I believe in a society beyond capitalism, where everyone contributes as they are able to; a society rooted in abundance not scarcity. For this reason,  I do not do tiered benefits.  I ask that you give what you are able and called to. I value your contribution at every stage.


Every patron will receive the following:

  • Subscription to a monthly newsletter ranging in topics from trauma, race, gender, shame, cultural appropriation, grief, embodiment, mindfulness and a range of other topics that our community finds important, interesting and/or funny.
  • The ability to submit topic suggestions and/or questions you'd like to understand more fully to be covered by the newsletter.
  • A monthly book review -- there are so many out there! It's helpful to have a place to begin.
  • A monthly embodiment exercise (this could be a mindfulness exercise you can use throughout the day for grounding, a dance, a breathing exercise, etc.)
  • Lastly, any and all behind the scenes and first looks at upcoming projects and workshops!


I hope to use this space as a home for our community to discuss, educate, unpack, unlearn, expand, unbecome, heal and grow on a molecular level.