Peter Dam is creating a blog about self-development
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Hi there! My name is Peter. I run a website about self-development where I write articles that I believe can be of value to a lot of people. In fact, I believe my thoughts and ideas are the best thing I have to offer the world and my best shot at making a positive impact on other people’s lives. I love writing and sharing them, and my dream is to grow my own business, be financially independent and be my own boss so I can do this full time and reach all the people who might benefit from my ideas.

One way to generate an income (without having ads all over the site or selling products I can’t vouch for) would be to supplement the free articles with paid products or services. With time and support I hope to eventually do individual coaching and write e-books or real books where I go more in depth with particular topics. But I want the majority of my content to remain free and accessible to anyone who might need it.

However, growing a business takes both money and time, and I have neither of those right now. I don’t know when I’ll be able to sustain myself with my website, but it won’t happen overnight and I don’t have the funds to cover my living expenses until then.

That’s why I had to make writing a side-project and initiate a plan B. Now I study sociology and have a part-time job, both of which I sort of like but don’t love. They leave me with very little time to do what I truly want.

Then I heard about Patreon! With enough support and financial freedom I can quit my job, drop my studies and focus exclusively on giving what I think is the most valuable thing I have to offer. Further down I’ve listed more specifically what I would do with your support. There are several important steps I cannot take alone. But first, for you to decide whether you’re interested in supporting me, I’d like to tell you what I’m all about.

Who’s Peter? Why and what is he writing?
For no obvious reason, throughout my youth I always carried some feeling of emptiness, anxiety, incompletion, loneliness or fear. I had hardly had any sense of self-worth or self-love. I had some good days, but nearly every morning I would reset, feel vaguely angst and wait for life to get better. My mind and emotions were a mystery to me.After finishing high school I started exploring who I was and why I felt this way. No small task, but very slowly some answers began to emerge. As I continued to inquire and learn, I realized I wasn’t alone. Everyone worries, everyone suffers. Obviously we do so for different reasons and to varying degrees, but I learned there’s one thing we all have in common: The majority of our psychological misery doesn’t come directly from our circumstances, but from how we interpret them.

No matter who we are or what happens to us, there is no situation that cannot be improved upon by looking at it from a different perspective. As holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl said: “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.”

I started writing down my perspective to help others change theirs.
My aim is to help people find a path to self-love and inner peace. We can’t buy these things or replace them with possessions. I believe they are found in critically evaluating our thoughts, actions and values. It’s often a difficult, uncomfortable and emotional path, but it is the only path.

My writings are not for the spiritual adventurer or for the experienced yoga-practitioner. They are for the average guy and girl. People like myself who need to learn to love themselves and know that they’re okay. People who feel they are losing a battle against their own thoughts and emotions and don’t know who to ask for advice. People who have a feeling there’s something wrong about the way they think and the way they live, but can’t quite put their finger on what.

What’s your definition of success in life? How do you know if you’re worthy of love? By which values do you live your life? Did you carefully choose those values, or did you actually uncritically adopt them from others? Are your values even healthy for your psychological well-being? These are the types of questions I believe we have to seriously consider if we wish to get to know ourselves. Self-knowledge is what enables us to steer our thoughts and actions in a direction that meets our needs for love, joy and fulfilment.

I suppose my writings are a product of the historical context in which I live. There was hardly a time when being human was simple and easy, but contemporary Western society puts exceptional pressure on us. Whether implicitly or explicitly, commercials, social media and the entertainment industry are setting incredibly high standards for us. We’re supposed to sculpt attractive bodies at the gym, live exciting, adventurous lives, be passionate about work, develop a solid career-plan, execute it, and use it to make a difference in the world. To top it off, if we ever have a psychological or spiritual crisis along the way, we are told the solution is to buy some new things and clothes.

It is no wonder so many people feel frustrated and lost. And when they slowly begin to realize that possessions cannot solve their deepest yearnings, that they cannot run from their own minds, that’s when I hope they find my writings.

But there’s already so much information and so many self-help gurus out there. Isn’t it enough? What makes my content special?
First of all, I believe that much of the mainstream self-development industry is simply repeating trivial, shallow advice or maxims that rarely investigate the root of our existential problems or sincerely try to offer real, exhaustive answers. The authors’ intentions may be absolutely in the right place, or they may just be looking for easy cash. In either case, mainstream self-development advice doesn’t go very deep, it isn’t explorative, and it rarely proposes any new ideas the reader hasn’t already heard, even from laymen friends and family.

Second, the content that does go in-depth with these matters is less mainstream in the sense that it is written in a language that the average reader may not understand. Full of metaphors and vague allegories, the less intuitive, more logically oriented reader (such as myself) remains unsure if he has understood the advice correctly. It is as if the authors think that using words like “energy”, “quantum leap” and “at a cellular level” left and right would make their arguments stronger or their ideas more impressive, when in reality such language only confuses the reader further and makes them wonder what energy is.

These are primarily the two issues I am trying to mitigate by writing in clear, concise language, by investigating the problems and their causes more extensively, and by offering original solutions, or even traditional solutions but formulated in a language that the average person can make sense of. Fortunately I’m not alone in this quest, but more is needed.

My articles move from the psychological to the societal, from everyday activities to the abstract and philosophical questions of freedom, purpose, life and death. Sometimes this involves research: Reading about philosophy, psychology, spirituality, or something else. Other times, it involves simply chewing on my thoughts, feelings and ideas for so long that I find the words to express them in a concise and clear manner.

I keep my readers in mind by listening to what bothers them, in what terms they describe their problems, and with which vocabulary they express their feelings. I offer ideas that come from a mixture of what they’ve asked me, what I’ve personally experienced, and what I’ve read elsewhere, and combine it all to express my ideas from a unique angle that appeals to the to the ordinary person trying to live a more sensible life.

You can read a little extra about my approach here: http://www.peterdam.org/about-peter/

Here are things I want to do with your support:
1) Quit my part-time job and find more time to write.
2) Drop my studies. This would give me so much freedom and allow me to write and focus exclusively on my dream!
3) Hire assistance and pay for Google Adwords. There are things I either don’t have time or the skills to do. Most importantly: Market myself and optimize my website for user friendliness and SEO.
4) Afford inspiration. To write well, one has to read. Books expand my horizons, compliment my ideas, give me new ones, and open my eyes for more topics I can write about.
5) Become a certified coach so I can offer better individual advice. I’m told I have a knack for asking the right questions, but I’d like tools to do so consistently and professionally.

Rewards
On the one hand, I want to offer rewards because they might be attractive. But on the other, I want you to support me because you want to fund me and enjoy my content as it is, not because you’ve been lured into it with the promise of behind-the-scenes content that may disappoint you.I may offer rewards in time, but for now, I hope that the idea of helping me living my dream, sharing my thoughts and becoming financially free is what motivates you the most. If it is, then I would be truly grateful, humbled and freaking happy to receive your support. And I really want to connect with you. Regardless of whether I set up rewards, I really want to be in touch with anyone who supports me. It would mean the world to me.

Thank you so much for reading!
Together we are strong.

Peter
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I can quit my part-time job and find more time to write
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Hi there! My name is Peter. I run a website about self-development where I write articles that I believe can be of value to a lot of people. In fact, I believe my thoughts and ideas are the best thing I have to offer the world and my best shot at making a positive impact on other people’s lives. I love writing and sharing them, and my dream is to grow my own business, be financially independent and be my own boss so I can do this full time and reach all the people who might benefit from my ideas.

One way to generate an income (without having ads all over the site or selling products I can’t vouch for) would be to supplement the free articles with paid products or services. With time and support I hope to eventually do individual coaching and write e-books or real books where I go more in depth with particular topics. But I want the majority of my content to remain free and accessible to anyone who might need it.

However, growing a business takes both money and time, and I have neither of those right now. I don’t know when I’ll be able to sustain myself with my website, but it won’t happen overnight and I don’t have the funds to cover my living expenses until then.

That’s why I had to make writing a side-project and initiate a plan B. Now I study sociology and have a part-time job, both of which I sort of like but don’t love. They leave me with very little time to do what I truly want.

Then I heard about Patreon! With enough support and financial freedom I can quit my job, drop my studies and focus exclusively on giving what I think is the most valuable thing I have to offer. Further down I’ve listed more specifically what I would do with your support. There are several important steps I cannot take alone. But first, for you to decide whether you’re interested in supporting me, I’d like to tell you what I’m all about.

Who’s Peter? Why and what is he writing?
For no obvious reason, throughout my youth I always carried some feeling of emptiness, anxiety, incompletion, loneliness or fear. I had hardly had any sense of self-worth or self-love. I had some good days, but nearly every morning I would reset, feel vaguely angst and wait for life to get better. My mind and emotions were a mystery to me.After finishing high school I started exploring who I was and why I felt this way. No small task, but very slowly some answers began to emerge. As I continued to inquire and learn, I realized I wasn’t alone. Everyone worries, everyone suffers. Obviously we do so for different reasons and to varying degrees, but I learned there’s one thing we all have in common: The majority of our psychological misery doesn’t come directly from our circumstances, but from how we interpret them.

No matter who we are or what happens to us, there is no situation that cannot be improved upon by looking at it from a different perspective. As holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl said: “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.”

I started writing down my perspective to help others change theirs.
My aim is to help people find a path to self-love and inner peace. We can’t buy these things or replace them with possessions. I believe they are found in critically evaluating our thoughts, actions and values. It’s often a difficult, uncomfortable and emotional path, but it is the only path.

My writings are not for the spiritual adventurer or for the experienced yoga-practitioner. They are for the average guy and girl. People like myself who need to learn to love themselves and know that they’re okay. People who feel they are losing a battle against their own thoughts and emotions and don’t know who to ask for advice. People who have a feeling there’s something wrong about the way they think and the way they live, but can’t quite put their finger on what.

What’s your definition of success in life? How do you know if you’re worthy of love? By which values do you live your life? Did you carefully choose those values, or did you actually uncritically adopt them from others? Are your values even healthy for your psychological well-being? These are the types of questions I believe we have to seriously consider if we wish to get to know ourselves. Self-knowledge is what enables us to steer our thoughts and actions in a direction that meets our needs for love, joy and fulfilment.

I suppose my writings are a product of the historical context in which I live. There was hardly a time when being human was simple and easy, but contemporary Western society puts exceptional pressure on us. Whether implicitly or explicitly, commercials, social media and the entertainment industry are setting incredibly high standards for us. We’re supposed to sculpt attractive bodies at the gym, live exciting, adventurous lives, be passionate about work, develop a solid career-plan, execute it, and use it to make a difference in the world. To top it off, if we ever have a psychological or spiritual crisis along the way, we are told the solution is to buy some new things and clothes.

It is no wonder so many people feel frustrated and lost. And when they slowly begin to realize that possessions cannot solve their deepest yearnings, that they cannot run from their own minds, that’s when I hope they find my writings.

But there’s already so much information and so many self-help gurus out there. Isn’t it enough? What makes my content special?
First of all, I believe that much of the mainstream self-development industry is simply repeating trivial, shallow advice or maxims that rarely investigate the root of our existential problems or sincerely try to offer real, exhaustive answers. The authors’ intentions may be absolutely in the right place, or they may just be looking for easy cash. In either case, mainstream self-development advice doesn’t go very deep, it isn’t explorative, and it rarely proposes any new ideas the reader hasn’t already heard, even from laymen friends and family.

Second, the content that does go in-depth with these matters is less mainstream in the sense that it is written in a language that the average reader may not understand. Full of metaphors and vague allegories, the less intuitive, more logically oriented reader (such as myself) remains unsure if he has understood the advice correctly. It is as if the authors think that using words like “energy”, “quantum leap” and “at a cellular level” left and right would make their arguments stronger or their ideas more impressive, when in reality such language only confuses the reader further and makes them wonder what energy is.

These are primarily the two issues I am trying to mitigate by writing in clear, concise language, by investigating the problems and their causes more extensively, and by offering original solutions, or even traditional solutions but formulated in a language that the average person can make sense of. Fortunately I’m not alone in this quest, but more is needed.

My articles move from the psychological to the societal, from everyday activities to the abstract and philosophical questions of freedom, purpose, life and death. Sometimes this involves research: Reading about philosophy, psychology, spirituality, or something else. Other times, it involves simply chewing on my thoughts, feelings and ideas for so long that I find the words to express them in a concise and clear manner.

I keep my readers in mind by listening to what bothers them, in what terms they describe their problems, and with which vocabulary they express their feelings. I offer ideas that come from a mixture of what they’ve asked me, what I’ve personally experienced, and what I’ve read elsewhere, and combine it all to express my ideas from a unique angle that appeals to the to the ordinary person trying to live a more sensible life.

You can read a little extra about my approach here: http://www.peterdam.org/about-peter/

Here are things I want to do with your support:
1) Quit my part-time job and find more time to write.
2) Drop my studies. This would give me so much freedom and allow me to write and focus exclusively on my dream!
3) Hire assistance and pay for Google Adwords. There are things I either don’t have time or the skills to do. Most importantly: Market myself and optimize my website for user friendliness and SEO.
4) Afford inspiration. To write well, one has to read. Books expand my horizons, compliment my ideas, give me new ones, and open my eyes for more topics I can write about.
5) Become a certified coach so I can offer better individual advice. I’m told I have a knack for asking the right questions, but I’d like tools to do so consistently and professionally.

Rewards
On the one hand, I want to offer rewards because they might be attractive. But on the other, I want you to support me because you want to fund me and enjoy my content as it is, not because you’ve been lured into it with the promise of behind-the-scenes content that may disappoint you.I may offer rewards in time, but for now, I hope that the idea of helping me living my dream, sharing my thoughts and becoming financially free is what motivates you the most. If it is, then I would be truly grateful, humbled and freaking happy to receive your support. And I really want to connect with you. Regardless of whether I set up rewards, I really want to be in touch with anyone who supports me. It would mean the world to me.

Thank you so much for reading!
Together we are strong.

Peter

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